I'm always on the lookout for sermons on the topic of "Singleness". I like to listen to sermons on all sorts of topics (esp. Missions, Grace, The Gospel, and the tough topics of the Bible), but sermons geared specifically towards Singles are of a personal interest to me.
While browsing around on the website of FBC Smyrna where my former youth minister now preaches, I saw a sermon recording titled "Singles", so I was interested to hear what their head pastor had to say (you can listen to it
here and be patient for it to load). I must say that I was a little disappointed to hear the usual sermon addressing 1 Corinthians 7. By "the usual sermon" I mean that it talks about the following topics:
- It is better to marry than to burn with passion.
- Some people have "the gift of singleness" and others don't, therefore those that don't have the gift should get married to deal with sexual temptation.
- Even though it's not in 1 Cor. 7, Gen. 2:18 "It is not good for man to be alone." always gets mentioned.
The argument to get married if you're struggling with sexual temptation sounds good, but a lot of us are trying that. "Just get married" sounds easy, but it's not. In my opinion, this causes us young singles to spend all of our time and energy trying to find a spouse. Then you reach an age where you give up on marriage and resign yourself to a life of uselessness in the church and society. The topic of how to live while single NEVER gets addressed. Well, that's a little exaggerated; I've heard it talked about exactly TWICE (hereafter mentioned as the Two Sermons).
Another argument that bugs me is the idea of a gift of singleness. One of the Two Sermons talked about how if you're single, you have the gift of singleness. Marriage is a gift from God, and Singleness is a gift from God. I'll address the Genesis 2 verse here as well. This sermon I was listening to from FBC Smyrna talked about how God is pro-marriage because he arranged the first marriage. Yes, I agree that God created marriage, but he created Adam SINGLE! We are all born single.
A lot of the frustrations that I have with my church and other churches has to do with the wrong focus. God is not pro-family (see Jesus in
Luke 14:26). God is not pro-marriage (see Jesus in
Matthew 22:29-30). God is pro-God! According to the Two Sermons, we are to live a life of service to God and a life that glorifies God whether we are married or single. Now, I admit that marriage can help with this, but it's not NECESSARY. The thing that I wish would be mentioned more in other sermons is that Singles can be MORE useful to the church than married people because we have more time to give and we can more whole-heartedly focus on our ministry. We should exploit this instead of being ashamed of our failed attempts to be married, and I wish that we would be encouraged more to do so.
Now, I don't know if one is better than the other (single or married), but I like how one of the Two Sermons says that marriage is a picture of Jesus' relationship with the church, and singleness is a picture of how we will each individually be in heaven (again, see
Matthew 22:29-30).
Here are links to listen to the Two Sermons
Nathan Trice - "
A Word to Singles" (You'll have to give an email address in order to download the sermon, so make sure you give your Junk Mail email address if you have one since they send out weekly newsletters. I can email it to you if you really want to listen to it)
Paul Matthies - "
Singleminded Part 1" and "
Singelminded Part 2"
Okay, it's actually three, but I could the 2-part sermon as one.
Please listen to these sermons and post your comments about them and anything else to do with singleness or marriage or anything else you feel burdened to share.